CasualDates

Online dating can be an extremely useful tool or it could be an absolute nightmare. There are over 40 million individuals in the US alone that are using some type of dating service almost regularly. Statistically speaking, with over 40 million people that are available at your every whim, it should be a synch finding a potential partner. The numbers are definitely in your favor, but you need to notice red flags of a possible psycho dater and run like the wind! We don’t mean literally, run – but you should be familiar with the idiom.

These are the most obvious types of online psycho daters. Be advised when proceeding to communicate with these types of individuals. We also advise that you always trust your intuition, there’s usually a plausible reason why you feel so icky about that someone – it’s just a matter of time before you find out what that reason is.

The Liar
This type of dater is usually easy to spot. They’ll say one thing, and then completely contradict themselves in a later conversation. They might mention one type of job, and then admit to working at another. Somehow you’re never really sure what the truth is and what are just more lies. They’ll usually agree with everything you say, they’ll somehow like all the same music, art, and might be studying in the same line of work. If you notice that all their opinions are really yours then you should make for a break and ditch all the lies.

The Cheater
This is another type of dater that can be easily spotted if you’re familiar with the red flags. One huge red flag is the fact that you can’t call them unless it’s under specific circumstances. They’ll usually state that they’ll call you whenever they can. If they miss dates/chats they always manage to rummage up an excuse. They tend to flake out on plans very abruptly and last minute with no explanation- until afterwards. They also prefer to stay in or go out of town, very private people (private meaning your entire relationship is kept private). Bail out early if any of this sounds all too familiar to you.

Regardless of your age, how many relationships you’ve been in, how long those relationships have been, or how long you’ve known the person for – it’s sometimes difficult to read whether or not a person is interested in you. Although males prefer to remain mysterious, women somehow always express how they really feel. Whether your partner is just opting for extra privacy, or if they’re just not into you is a struggle, in itself, to figure out. These are common traits that usually confirm your partner is no longer into you; the more they exhibit the more confirmation you have.

Bad news: they just might not be into you anymore
Good news: it’s time to brush off the old & take in the new

1. They don’t return your calls/text messages 
This redflag usually means one of two things. One, they’re too busy to be calling/texting you back. Two, you aren’t an important enough priority to call/text you back in a timely manner – both a negative thing. Regardless of whether or not your partner is busy, they should text/call you back eventually – if this never happens you should take the hint and avoid re-calling/texting.

2. They always have an excuse to flake 
You’ve been dating for a while now and you’ve noticed that whenever you make specific plans, somehow something “important” tends to come up. First it’s a work emergency, then something with their friend, then a possible family affair which needs to be tended to – all of which conveniently occur when you make plans. You think it may be a coincidence, we think not.

I haven't been out on a date in a really long time. I just recently broke off my engagement with my boyfriend of 8 years. My friends insisted that I stop moping around my house and get back to dating.

So there's Freddy, a man who is a friend of a friend. Our mutual friend decided it was a great idea to set us up on a date. At the time, I was extremely nervous & hesitant about going - but I got talked into it anyway.

Immediately, I should have known that the date was doomed from the beginning. We agreed to meet at the restaurant at approximately 7:30PM. I got there around 7:40 - thought I'd be the late one until Freddy comes strolling in at 8:15. Sometimes, being late is inevitable because of traffic, getting lost, ect. but he didn't bother to call/text and let me know he was running late. That's what bothered me the most, the fact that he didn't have the decency to let his date know when he'd be in, that was strike one.